When I first started writing this post it was going to be a post about dealing with people who aren’t really your friend. I thought about it for quite a while and realized if there is people in your life that are pretending to be your friend it’s best to just cut them off and be done with them. So then out of that thought arose this post about growing apart from your friends and what you can do about it. I hope this process will help someone.
There comes a time when you realize a person is no longer a friend anymore. Maybe at one time you guys were close maybe even best friends. Things do change and people grow and change, the thing is not everyone changes though. Some people get left behind, and you may not be leaving them behind. You may be trying to bring them up with you. Sometimes people don’t want to come up with you. You watch as someone you used to tell everything to, slowly becomes an acquaintance.
When it gets to this point is when you need to take a step back. You need to assess the “friendship.” A friendship between two people should be beneficial to both parties. What are you getting out of the friendship? What about your friend? You don’t have to see each other a lot to know if your friendship is solid.
If you realize that you two are changing and are growing apart that’s ok, but before you end a friendship it’s better to talk with the person beforehand, because if you see it then they probably see it too. Take out some time make some plans to hang out and have this chat face to face if you can’t do face to face try for FaceTime or Skype. You might find out something you didn’t know before.
Let me end this post with this, people have lives and things are constantly changing, but be sure you talk because with any friendship/relationship communication is key in knowing what’s going on.